Award-Winning Relationship Clarity Tool
Welcome to the
Prioritize Us Test
Unlock a new level of connection in just 5 minutes.
Winner of the Indie Book Award — this simple test can make a profound difference in your relationships and your life.
Free to use · Takes 5 minutes
Secure & private — your data is never shared
Award-Winning Relationship Guide
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What Critics Are Saying
"User-friendly tools for couples seeking a deeper connection."
Publisher's Weekly BookLife
"A must-read for couples who want to not just survive but thrive in their relationship."
Portland Book Review
5/5
"As relationship guides go, Prioritize Us is by far one of the best reads I've had this year."
Reedsy Discovery
5/5 — Must Read
What Readers Are Saying
"With resources like Nick's book here, I feel confident, as does my partner, that we are staying committed to one another and understand each other's priorities, wants, wishes, and the like."
Laura A.
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"It's not just a book; it's a toolkit for aligning your love and your life. If you're ready to transform your relationship into a partnership rooted in empathy, trust, and purpose, this book is an essential read."
Abhinav
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"This book doesn't just teach you how to improve your relationship. It inspires you to cherish and nurture it. After reading, I re-evaluated how I approached my relationship and embraced the principle of 'us' with newfound clarity."
Meghan Soderholm
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4.8★
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More Than a One-Time Test
Your Relationship Dashboard
Prioritize Us isn't just a test you take once — it's a living tool that grows with your relationship.
Track Your TDS Trend
Save results and watch your alignment score evolve over time.
Save My Results
Your scores, insights, and comparisons are always accessible in your dashboard.
Re-Take Anytime
Priorities shift. Re-take the test whenever you want — compare past and present.
What You'll Get in Minutes
Your Personalized Results
Coordinated
TDS ranges from 0–50 (lower = more aligned)
Some misalignment — regular discussions needed.
MOST ALIGNED
💼 Career
🕊️ Spirituality
💬 Communication
GROWTH AREAS
🌱 Growth
❤️ Health
💰 Finances
PRIORITY RANKINGS
Sample results preview
Your TDS Alignment Score
A single number that reveals how aligned you truly are.
Priority-by-Priority Breakdown
See exactly where you match and where you differ across all 10 areas.
Personalized Insights & Growth Areas
Actionable guidance on your strongest alignments and where to focus together.
How It Works
Simple. Revealing. Profound.
You and your partner each rank a list of life priorities 1–10. Then compare your results for instant clarity and powerful new insight. The test is quick, private, and can be taken on any device.
Create an account
Sign in securely in seconds.
Invite your partner
Send them a unique code via email or share a direct link.
Rank your priorities
Each of you ranks 10 core life areas.
Discover your alignment
See your TDS score and what it means.
The 10 Core Life Priorities
Your focus on professional growth, ambition, and work-life balance.
The importance of open, honest conversation and emotional check-ins.
How you value hobbies, fun, downtime, and shared leisure.
Your approach to budgeting, saving, spending, and long-term security.
Commitment to learning, self-improvement, and personal development.
Focus on physical, mental, and emotional well-being.
Value placed on family, friends, and your social circle.
The need for emotional and financial security, and predictability in life.
Priority on intimacy, physical connection, and shared desires.
Importance of faith, spiritual practice, or personal meaning.
Grounded in Science
Built on Proven Research
The Prioritize Us method draws on decades of relationship science — from Gottman's research on structured dialogue to Chapman's love languages and values-based therapy. When couples name and compare what matters most, they move from assumption to understanding.
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Common Questions
Frequently Asked Questions
Prioritize Us is a relationship clarity tool that helps two people compare what matters most. You and your partner each rank 10 core life priorities, then view your combined results, including your TDS alignment score and actionable insights.
No. It isn’t a personality quiz or a “compatibility score.” It’s a clarity tool designed to help you understand how your priorities compare so you can have better conversations about real-life decisions.
Go Deeper
The Prioritize Us Book
Grab the Prioritize Us book now on Amazon — dive deeper into the method with expanded exercises, real-world examples, and advanced frameworks for lasting alignment.
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